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Find your way back to each other.

Attachment-based couples therapy for communication, trust, intimacy and repair. Online across California, together or from two locations.

What it can sound like

“We keep having the same fight.”

“We feel more like roommates than partners.”

“I don’t trust them anymore.”

“When I try to talk, they shut down.”

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What’s going on

You’re not failing. You’re stuck in a cycle.

Most couples who come to us aren’t broken. They’re caught in a pattern: one partner pushes to connect, the other pulls back to keep the peace, and both end up feeling alone. The fight is rarely about the dishes.

Attachment-based approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) look underneath the conflict, at the need to feel safe, wanted and understood, and help you reach for each other again. We also help couples through infidelity, parenting stress, life transitions and supporting a partner through an eating disorder or mental health struggle.

Common signs
  • The same arguments on repeat
  • Feeling distant, lonely or like roommates
  • Trust broken by an affair or secrets
  • One of you shuts down while the other pushes
  • Less intimacy or affection
  • Stress from kids, work or family pulling you apart
If this sounds like you

Here’s how we can help.

Your therapist doesn’t take sides. The relationship is the client.

01Map your cycleWe name the pattern you both get caught in, so it becomes the problem instead of each other.
02What’s underneathGetting to the fear, hurt and longing under the anger or the silence.
03New conversationsPracticing ways to talk and listen that actually land, in session and at home.
04Repair and rebuild trustA clear path for healing after an affair or a breach of trust, if you both choose to rebuild.
05Keep it goingRituals of connection and tools to catch the cycle early, long after therapy ends.
What can change

What couples often notice

Fewer repeat fightsRepairing faster after conflictFeeling like a team againMore affection and intimacyRebuilt trustEasier conversations about hard things

Your relationship is worth the work.

Tell us a little about what’s going on. We’ll match you with a specialist in exactly this, verify your insurance for free, and most people have a first session the same week.

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Common questions

What if my partner won’t come?

You can start on your own. Relationship-focused individual therapy can still shift the pattern, and many partners join later.

Does couples therapy work online?

Yes. Many couples find it easier to show up from home, and you can join from the same room or two different places.

Is it too late for us?

Couples come in at every stage, including on the edge of separating. Therapy can help you find clarity either way, with less damage.

Do both partners have to be in California?

Each partner should be in California during the session.

Can couples therapy help if we’re thinking about separating?

Yes. Therapy can help you decide together, and communicate better whatever you choose.

Can we do sessions from different places?

Yes. Each partner can join the video session from their own device.

Do you take my insurance?

Our clinicians are in-network with Aetna, Anthem, Blue Shield, Cigna, Optum, Carelon, Health Net, Molina, Medi-Cal, Medicare and more, and we accept Kaiser referrals. We check your benefits for free before you start.

How soon can I start?

Most new clients can have a first session within about a week. Call or text (805) 678-9182, or use “Find my match.”

Who can you see?

Anyone located in California at the time of the session. We work with kids, teens, adults, couples and families.